There is no such thing as a manual on how to help someone in these circumstances, starting by the fact that an anxiety attack can be detonated by different situations, experiences, moments or even other people; but, here we will give you some tips on how you can help our loved ones during these situations without interfering with their emotions or feelings, while always being supportive and caring.
● Don't try to fix it. You are their partner, not their therapist, so let them know how much you love them, care for them, and you want them to feel better. Some people need to feel good to be worthy of love.
● Make them feel safe. One of the biggest fears of an anxious person is that they cannot be loved because of their anxiety, so constantly remind them that you are there for them, that you are going through it together, and that you are with them because you want to, and you are not going anywhere because they are important to you.
● Listen without judging. Often, our partners have ideas on how they could feel better or what can help, but they don't find the right moments or the opportunities to express themselves, this is why it is important to create different spaces where they have the chance to talk and express their thoughts. There might be things you might not like or you don't agree with, but don't forget you are there to listen and to help your partner vent everything that is preventing them from feeling peace.
● Be honest. Speaking clearly and with honesty is one of the main factors to help control your partners anxiety, leaving loose ends will be used to think the worst about it. If you don't like something, let them know; if something anguishes you, let them know; if you like something say it even more!
● Understand their silence. If they don't answer it doesn't mean they are ignoring you, or that they don't care, or that you did something wrong; sometimes they just are not comfortable to talk and express what they feel, so their silence is a "safe" place, try to understand and be supportive during these times
● Ask them about their feelings. Its common that people with anxiety say everything is good and they feel good, but the truth might be another one, so if you think your partner is going through a rough time, try to ask how are they doing, don't be pushy! what matters is that they feel your support and love.
● Don't minimize their feelings. Asking your partner how they feel is crucial, make them feel you understand and that all of us go through anxiety and even though its overwhelming, together you can endure it.
● Go to therapy with them and follow up with their progress. Going with them to therapy means a lot to them, listening to what they have to say is important, find emotional controlling activities like yoga, sports, dance, etc.
So the next time you approach someone with anxiety, think of our successful tips for better results.
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